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| Dab |
Do any of you have an extended family member that has to be involved in every event? My son is getting married in June. My SIL and neice who never see my son now calls and wants to help with the wedding. They have to have the attention on themselves all the time. They have to be in everyone's delivery room during a birth, when my daughter graduated from 8th grade they picked her up from school one day and took her shopping, put on makeup did her hair etc for her graduation. I had no idea that's what they were doing until they got home. It's like no one can plan their own event without them wanting to be part of it or most of it. Then it's, we'll see you at the next family function a few months from now : ) They drive me nuts!!!
My son called last night to ask me if I've ever heard of Barry Manilow's I Am Your Child that he found on the computer. He knows I probably have because Barry Manilow is my favorite and they all know that. That is the song that he picked for me and him to dance to at the wedding aaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh
My last little bit of fun, my son sent me his guest list which includes my ex's new wife (which I expected) but it also has her mother, step father, sister and sister's boyfriend. They have all trashed me so this ought to be fun. In 10 years I've never spoken to her family ever, I've talked to her twice, never seen her up close however she's sent me 3 nasty bashing emails. (you know, them ex wife's are so awful until the new wife gets a divorce and then they compare notes LOL) (sidenote here: My ex left me and 4 kids after 16 years of marriage 10 years ago when he got this 21 year old pregnant when he was 36 and they are bashing me--gotta love it). I love my son, it's his wedding, I will smile and enjoy and hope that they don't feel the need to glare and stare. I've got 8 months to lose my 20lbs, go to the gym and get fit, look good and have a good time : ) |
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| Jsgirl |
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Dab wrote:
Do any of you have an extended family member that has to be involved in every event? My son is getting married in June. My SIL and neice who never see my son now calls and wants to help with the wedding. They have to have the attention on themselves all the time. They have to be in everyone's delivery room during a birth, when my daughter graduated from 8th grade they picked her up from school one day and took her shopping, put on makeup did her hair etc for her graduation. I had no idea that's what they were doing until they got home. It's like no one can plan their own event without them wanting to be part of it or most of it. Then it's, we'll see you at the next family function a few months from now : ) They drive me nuts!!!
My son called last night to ask me if I've ever heard of Barry Manilow's I Am Your Child that he found on the computer. He knows I probably have because Barry Manilow is my favorite and they all know that. That is the song that he picked for me and him to dance to at the wedding aaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh
My last little bit of fun, my son sent me his guest list which includes my ex's new wife (which I expected) but it also has her mother, step father, sister and sister's boyfriend. They have all trashed me so this ought to be fun. In 10 years I've never spoken to her family ever, I've talked to her twice, never seen her up close however she's sent me 3 nasty bashing emails. (you know, them ex wife's are so awful until the new wife gets a divorce and then they compare notes LOL) (sidenote here: My ex left me and 4 kids after 16 years of marriage 10 years ago when he got this 21 year old pregnant when he was 36 and they are bashing me--gotta love it). I love my son, it's his wedding, I will smile and enjoy and hope that they don't feel the need to glare and stare. I've got 8 months to lose my 20lbs, go to the gym and get fit, look good and have a good time : )
And I will help every way I can. *CREW THEM! I'll walk tomorrow if you will? You will shine! |
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| Tink *~*~* |
re: the buttinskies who want to "help" - it's not a sin to screen your calls and delete any email in your inbox.
re: the ex's new family - looking good is the best revenge, dahlink. Just ask Ivana Trump! |
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| Robin |
Ah....I should hook you up with a friend of mine. She's at her stepson's wedding today. :) Her DH's ex (is a b*tch. She's the one playing guilt trips on her son with his wedding. Her side of the family has tried to get their way buy threating not to come to the wedding. He finally got fed up and put his foot down. If the come they come, if they don't...it's their own fault. (I can't wait to find out Monday how it all went.)
Here is my suggestion. If they ask, your son and his fiance are making all the decisions. Period. (If he asks you for 'advice' or 'suggestions' she they don't need to know this.
As for the second wife's family, there's not much you can do except grin and bear it, if he's somewhat close to them. My friend's parents et al were also invited to her step son't wedding, so I guess this is a common practice.
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| Dab |
As for the second wife's family, there's not much you can do except grin and bear it, if he's somewhat close to them. My friend's parents et al were also invited to her step son't wedding, so I guess this is a common practice.
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According to my son, he's spoken to the new wife's parents two or three times. Why he feels the need to invite the new wife's extended family is beyond me since they are trying to keep the guest list down. They are doing a sit down dinner which they cannot afford but you know, people just don't do the reception in the nice house thing any more. It's outta style LOL
I just feel like I'm up against the firing squad. My ex's family are vindictive and ruthless people (he's got 8 siblings). The sisters are awful, the brothers have stayed close and nice to me (go figure???). A note here, we all grew up together as we lived across the street from one another BWAHAHAHA I understand during a divorce you stick up for your brother but these sisters were nasty. The brothers told me not to listen to the sisters. So now I get the new wife who sends me nasty emails, her family who has trashed me and the sisters of my ex LOL
My best friend since the 7th grade just sent me an email the other day telling me she'd sit by me and we'd have a good time partying the night away. Her husband just left her after 24 years for some youngie, he was bored going to work and coming home to kids with no privacy thing. Better known as the midlife crisis. LOL She's laughing about it now, she's found a new guy who really thinks the world of her. Anyway, I just made a deal with my daughter to keep going to the gym with me to lose this weight and tone so I can go in a size 6 dress with some muscles in them calves. I was just checking into the botox injections BWHAAHAHA
I'm getting way too many lines around the eyes and brow area. This part, doing things for myself which I haven't done since before having kids is actually nice for a change. That's the positive. Now that most of my kids are grown (1 home out of 4), I'm finally thinking about myself for a change!!! Gotta look at the positive in it all.
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| Peggo |
Awww, aren't wedding fun?
About all you can do is grin a bear it.
My daughter loves Barry Manilow ,too. What's with these kids? LOL |
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| Dab |
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Awww, aren't wedding fun?
About all you can do is grin a bear it.
My daughter loves Barry Manilow ,too. What's with these kids? LOL
He's an excellent arranger. His voice is getting rather crackly. |
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| Crank |
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Dab wrote:
He's an excellent arranger. His voice is getting rather crackly.
As an arranger, Barry is in a class by himself. The Lone Arranger if you will...
You'll be fine! Smile all the while, it'll make them wonder what you're up to... |
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