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Dab
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Posted 11-28-02 01:47 AM
I was talking to someone on here through private email and we thought I'd ask you all for advice or if you'd ever met anyone online.
Curious if anyone has ever been on a blind date or met someone you've only talked online to?
I've been talking to a man for about 7 weeks now online. I was the one scared to meet him. He always told me that he would be patient and we could be just email buddies if that's what I wanted. One could tell though that he was getting a little impatient after 7 weeks to meet face to face LOL We set up this Friday 90 minutes before he had to leave for work at a coffee shop near the hospital that he works at. (he's a respitory therapist, night shift). I was mortified that I would get out of the car and he'd think eeeeeeeeewwwwwww. I even thought about sitting in the parking lot and having a few little airplane bottles of wine to settle my nerves and then have my daughter pick me up later. I am not a self assured person and curious if anyone had major jitters before a blind date or meeting someone from online?
I decided today enough was enough, emailed him and told him I'd be at this electronics store near his home around a certain time if he wanted to drop by. Wouldn't you know that I'm waiting for a train to pass and the thing stops and blocks the road!!!! I wanted to get there early to redo makeup and all that.
He was there, saw his car in the parking lot which sorta freaked me out some. After 15 long minutes he finally came up and said hello. Found out later he had gone up to my daughter with her California sweat shirt on and asked if she was my daughter and was that me down at the end of the aisle? LOL We went out and talked for a little while, my kids played the playstation games inside (one is 19 so no problem leaving them inside) I was freaked, couldn't even tell you what he was wearing but my conversation was good. I was actually surprised. No shaking, nothing! He did ask me out to dinner and walked me back into the store. Also got an email telling me that he wants to see me again.....whew!!!!
Anyway, curious if anyone else out there has any dumb blind date stories so I don't feel so stupid like I do right now.I can't believe I'm 45 and scared to death! Any tips on dating? I didn't even date my ex, the two of us just use to hang out with a bunch of people : )
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Lunarlady
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Posted 11-28-02 10:33 AM
Not a dumb blind date story, but I meet people from online all the time. Typically we exchange photos first so we can weed out the ones we don't want and that takes care of any "Will he take one look at me and go EEEWWWW!!".
I'm glad you found someone to date, though. It's always nice to have someone to go to movies and dinners with! 
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fantayzya
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Posted 11-28-02 10:35 AM
I got up one day to go to work and found a note on my coffee table telling 'my darling Steven' all about what she was going to do to him the NEXT time they met. (Steven was my ex)
I went to work and my day went through every range of emotion there was, till by the time I got home I was at the 'really pissed off' stage. Of course 'Butthead' wasn't home-good thing for him actually, this mouse was gonna roar that night. So I opted to get online look for a chat room with only 2 people in it with a name that might imply some hanky panky and do my level best to interrupt, assuming that odds were good at least one of these unsuspecting folks was a guy. I didn't want to know him, I didn't want to care about him, I just wanted to verbally rip him to shreds simply for his gender. lol.
I found a room with 2 people, named 'A Cabin in the Redwoods' Sounded good to me. The funny thing is that on this ISP you had the option to allow someone else into your room or not and these silly folks did lol. I vented and ranted and cried and all the stuff I intended to do and eventually they settled me down. That was April, 1996.
Over the following weeks these kind folks actually tried to reason with my (now)ex and help me save what was left of my marriage, but 'butthead' didn't get his name by chance, he earned it. Through this a good friendship started developing.
Around October, 1996 the expanding group of online friends discussed getting together in person and opted to actually do this at WDW, a safe, neutral place that no one had been too. By that time I was in no position to go anywhere, I was getting ready to file papers for divorce, my life and finances were in shambles and my mental state was no better.
The weekend they chose to do this meet was actually over my birthday. They kept after me to go since I was the only one who had been before they were counting on me to be the tour guide. I kept telling them it simply wasn't possible, no matter how much I might wish to.
About a week before their meet, I got a phone call. From a friend in Houston, Joel. I had not given him my phone number, but we were listed so I guess he found me somehow. All he said to start out was 'Happy Birthday, get to the airport, your plane leaves at 6.' I argued that same arguement, and even got into the fact that I couldn't pay him back, in, ummm anyway he might be thinking. He filled me in on the flight, the fact that I'd be staying at Dixie Landings and that we'd get tickets when I got there, that someone had helped him once when he needed it and all he expected in return was for me to help someone someday when I was able to.
Well, 'Butthead' was all for this since it wouldn't cost him anything and told me to go for it. So, I somehow arranged the time from work to extend a weekend a couple of days and made plans to go.
Well, the day arrived and I had plans to be very busy. You see, I had an appointment with my attorney to sign papers for my divorce to be filed at 4 had to get home and grab my bags and be at the airport by 5 for a 6 oclock flight.
The flight went off without a hitch, though I had been told that my ticket was a companion fare and that another local gal was going who chickened out at the last minute. I wasn't sure what might or might not actually happen at that point. I figured worst case scenario, my grandparents were just a short drive away if I needed rescue.
Finally touch down in Orlando. I got off the plane and FLASH!!!! When the 'blue dot' cleared I looked up and all I said was "I know you" and then was grabbed up into the most amazing hug and just held for a time. Exactly what this worn out, emotionally drained gal needed.
He had been waiting for quite some time for my flight and had put his bags in a locker so we went to collect them. He actually had more bags than I did so I offered to help. The one he handed over to me was so heavy. I joked, "What the heck have you got in here? Rocks?" He just laughed.
We found a shuttle to the Ramada where the group was set up to spend arrival night before moving on to Dixie Landings and made our way over there. It was quite late by this time and I was so tired having been up since 5 and working all day first. When we got to the room he started unpacking that bag I had helped with. It was full of presents for me, and yes, there actually were rocks in it. They were the gifty type and engraved with endearments.
Well, we met the rest of the group that had arrived at that point and got to know eachother better. What fun!
Eventually, it was back to the room where I collapsed till it was time to head to DxL.
I woke up that morning sicker than a dog. I felt so lousy that all I really wanted to do is sleep, but I was determined to have fun and do my duty as 'tour guide' since this was on someone else's tab. I was also determined not to let on how miserable I was. Well, he spotted me doubling over in pain at the MK at one point and the cat was outta the bag so to speak. I had had my youngest son that past Jan, had surgery for cervical cancer in Feb, gall bladder removed end of Mar and had not cycled since. Docs didn't know if I would, or not, but said it could go either way, be next to nothing or be horrible. It was horrible. So bad that at one point we debated the need to find a hospital. This kind gent actually was running to the store to buy me 'girl stuff' the whole weekend lol. (Sorry, I know that's kind of personal lol) He was wonderful, in his bag of tricks he had brought a small coffee pot, gourmet coffees, herbal teas, stuff for bubble baths, all kinds of things to make me feel special that he knew I'd not been doing for myself for a very long time.
I was basically Cinderella for 4 days. If I looked at something for more than a couple of seconds he bought it for me. He had even arranged on short notice a dinner at Victoria and Alberts. I was petrified as I'm more of a burger and pizza kind of gal and don't know what to do with more than 2 forks anyway. To have a first 'official' date at a place like that and be sicker than a dog was a whole lot of pressure lol.
It was amazing. As it turns out, Joel did pay for the airfare, but the rest was taken care of elsewhere. I didn't know that then.
Anyway, when it came time to pack and go home, I was so miserable. I missed my boys terribly, but knew I was going back to my nightmare and would pay dearly for this wonderful weekend. I did too. We both were crying when I got on the plane and I had to wipe away the tears and put on a smile when I got off the plane at home for my boys.
This guy and I have had our ups and downs since then, he's come to see me and I've gone to see him. We're still great friends, in fact he's my best friend. He's helped me grow a back bone and not be such a mouse when life attacks. We both have a fondness for the idea of meeting online, but we are very aware of the risks too. The most positive aspect in my opinion is that you start out by communicating. Yeah, you can put up a front, but if that communication is intense and frequent, and you cover all different topics, while still revisiting ones you've already covered, it's very tough to keep up a lie without getting caught. And from my experience most people simply don't put the time or energy into that kind of deception. Just be careful, be observant, follow your head as well as your heart.
My friend and I have been married now for 3 years.
That's how I met Dsorcerer.
"One small drop of water raises the sea" Marian in Dinotopia
"One who grows does not grow old"-Texas Bix Bender, writer
"Look Mommy," he whispered. "The butterflies are dancing!" At that moment, inside my soul somewhere, all the tumblers fell into place."-Kathy Storfer, "A Dig in the Dirt," Green Prints Spring 1997
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phamton
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Posted 11-28-02 10:44 AM
Thanks, Fantayzia, that was a beautiful story. I have met lots of friends online. I've never been disappointed. One of my friends married a guy she met online. They've been married 5 years and very happy.
Bev
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Dsorcerer
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Posted 11-28-02 11:23 AM
One sideline to this story is from me...I didn't want to go through the rest of my life with another "what if". I met my true love, married my best friend, and now spend my life with my soul-mate....Michigan weather might suck at times, but there is NO HAPPIER guy on this planet!
"After all is said and done, usually more is said than done"
"You can put a computer to sleep, but you can't kill it"
"Computers are better than Ex-wives because after you give it a hard boot, it has forgotten the last bad thing you did to it"
"Pull this finger, and I make a sound"
"some people see the glass as half empty, some as half full, I see a glass that is just too darn big for the beverage"
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Dab
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Posted 11-28-02 11:49 AM
This guy and I have had our ups and downs since then, he's come to see me and I've gone to see him. We're still great friends, in fact he's my best friend. He's helped me grow a back bone and not be such a mouse when life attacks. We both have a fondness for the idea of meeting online, but we are very aware of the risks too. The most positive aspect in my opinion is that you start out by communicating. Yeah, you can put up a front, but if that communication is intense and frequent, and you cover all different topics, while still revisiting ones you've already covered, it's very tough to keep up a lie without getting caught. And from my experience most people simply don't put the time or energy into that kind of deception. Just be careful, be observant, follow your head as well as your heart.
My friend and I have been married now for 3 years.
That's how I met Dsorcerer.
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What a nice story, thanks!!!!
On the other part above, on the View they had a guest cohost and were talking about should you meet someone online.
The guest said how shallow and wrong it was and why couldn't you meet them the regular way. I was thinking it's more shallow the other way, you start talking at a bar or wherever because of looks and not if they are interesting. (nothing wrong with that,it's happened since the beginning of time). But I just don't think it's shallow to meet someone online and talk for awhile first. I think he knows more about me now then he would ever have found out in 50 dates! At least we've gotten a couple arguments out of the way and we can live through them. We are going to the diner around the corner from his work tomorrow evening for an hour so we will see. Supposedly going to dinner or something on his day off Saturday night also.
thanks for sharing your story!!!!!!! shoot, I was so nervous last night I forgot Amazing Race AND Survivor!!!!
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Coastalwader
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Posted 11-30-02 01:33 AM
Awesome story!!
Thanks for sharing!
King Unca Bubba Lord DisneyTex
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